It was two years back that my wife and I came to know that my mother, back in India, was diagnosed with fourth stage colon cancer. Doctors gave her at most one year to live. We decided that we would go back to India to spend some quality time with her – who like most moms made tremendous sacrifices in her life. Because of various uncertainties in our personal lives as well, we decided to move back to India maybe for good. Having been settled in the US for the past two decades and getting used to the life here, it was a really hard decision on our part to sell almost everything we have here in the US and go back to India.
As I sit in our balcony overlooking beautiful trees in Dallas, I cannot help but wonder how difficult the past two years have been. My wife and I have been practicing passage meditation for eight years and because of it many of our priorities have changed over time. Most of us who meditate can attest to the fact that we become more sensitive to others’ needs, without ignoring our own well-being.
During this difficult phase of our lives, passage meditation helped us tremendously to deal with our own emotions – good and bad – and kept us equanimous in general. We are deeply indebted to Sri Easwaran, our teacher, and his eight-point program.
Passage Meditation as Internal Support
My mother was very happy to see me, her eldest son, return back from the US mostly just to take care of her. Once in India we moved into a really nice rental house with a nice community with lots of greenery, quite a rare thing in that part of the country. We then moved my parents and my wife's mom into the house along with us. One of the days I casually asked my mom, what her happiest year was in her life. It was gratifying to hear that this last year spending time with us, is her best year.