passages taught me that the best way to get even was to actually try to get to
know my colleague a little better. Every day, I started making an attempt to
converse with him about something other than work. I noticed that he had
pictures of his family in his office, so I started asking him about them. For a
long time, I felt that nothing was changing. When I returned home, I used “Evening Prayer for the
Sabbath” for my evening meditation. Here is an excerpt from this passage that
gave me a lot of solace:
“I must do my allotted task with unflagging faithfulness even though the eye of no task master is on me. I must be gentle in the face of ingratitude or when slander distorts my noblest motives. I must come to the end of each day with a feeling that I have used its gifts gratefully and faced its trials bravely.”
– Jewish Liturgy
Gradually, over a period of time, things started shifting a little. I learnt that he was a good family man who loved his wife and children. He also liked American football. Although I knew nothing about this sport, I started asking him more about the rules, the games during the football season, and his favorite players. It was quite refreshing as I realized that amidst all the challenges and our differences, there was some human connection. I also started enjoying listening to how he spent his time with his family on the weekends.
We worked on the project together for more than 6 months and I confess that our differences did not completely disappear. Yet the passages helped me see many positives in my colleague, myself, and our project too. Our working relationship improved over the course of those six months. I was truly amazed by the power of the passages and the benefits of meditating on passages. In the past, I would have fallen sick under the stress and lost hope. However, this time I somehow managed to conduct myself rather well under the circumstances. When I would get agitated before, during and after meetings, I used the passage, Whatever You Do: “Whatever you do, make it an offering to me, the food you eat, the worship you perform, the help you give, even your suffering.” Thanks to the powerful words of the inspirational passages and the eight-point program, I got a lot of comfort and support when I needed it.
Most of all, the passages became my buddies and I felt that I could hang out with them whenever I needed to.